Wednesday, August 22, 2007
A friend of mine, or ex-friend since he was the one who said he broke the frenship and all, posted a blog about me recently. He was unhappy about things related to our CCA which is Red Cross. His idea was to resolve whatever misunderstandings we had by posting a blog about me and cutting off my friendship. It’s obvious that his intentions are to win the arguments and not really to resolve things, so he resorted to such an easy way out. i shall write this blog in the same way as you did about me, since you heavily defended ur actions and think u did the right thing. I want to do the right thing too.
I know sooner or later he’ll get to know about this blog entry and that he might read this. So do get the fact right that I am hurt & pissed for all those things that he mentioned about me, making it a personal attack. I don't want to tell this to his face because
1. I find it useless to argue with guys who always want to win.
2. He is the best fren of my BF and I dun wan my bf to be stuck in this mess.
He hurt my feelings by posting the blog, but claims that its ok to post the blog as he didn’t mention my name. However, he mentioned my appointment in my CCA, the vice –president(VP) post with which everyone will find out who I am anyway. He defended himself by claiming that the year ones don’t know that im the VC. How about the rest of the students in the CCA and the school? He defended himself further that if I got hurt about him writing bad stuff about me, its my problem and not his mistake. So well, since he said that, it is also ok for me to write bad stuff about him. Since I didn’t mention his name, it is ok. Well, so let me elaborate..
Initally alot of ppl told me not to mix around with this person, he’s not my kind of friend, he is a bad company and all. But I always stood up for him and told them that he was a nice guy, a good friend, always there to lend a helping hand. But i guess i was wrong. I shouldn’t have told so many ppl good things about him and defended him. It all just backfired to me for being a good fren.
1stly he mentioned that his other frens in the RC said that he was committed. First thing can your frens in RC be more committed than my committee members? Are you sure that ur frens who said u are committed turn up in more events than my officers? if they aren’t, how can u use what they said to justify that you are committed? I am not saying, I repeat I am NOT saying your frens are not committed. They are nice people to work with and they have helped me and I’m thankful. But if your frens are not there all the time, how do they know that you are committed? Irony isn’t it? Btw, I am not running a military camp or sec sch NCC with the aim to control people. So controlling my juniors is not my job.
2ndly he mentioned that about my ex-president. How long does he know about my ex-president to run his mouth over him just like tat? Whatever he does is nothing I can say or do about. There is no reason why you should bring him into this matter. Get a life man!
3rdly he mentioned about coming to every event I complained there is no manpower. How many events did you come for that I said got no manpower? Got list? The camps which you stay in with the rest of us were volunteered by yourself. You said you were bored at home and that’s you wanted to join us at duties and all. We din ask you. He mentioned he din bother about CE pts. Of coz he wun. He completed the number of pts needed to graduate. So why would he bother abt CE pts anyway?
4thly he mentioned about spending all his free time to committee for RC as much as possible. Did I ask you to? You wanted to join the IG. So commitment is something that should come along with it. It is as though u tell your wife that “hey, just because we are married it doesn’t mean I got to be called your husband. I still want my marital status to be single.” Seriously, I dun give a damn coz you quit already.
And it was you who was complaining to me that I am not allowing you to spend time with your gf during IG duties and all. Most of the time, no one would put couples to do duty together or sth. Because you might end up not doing the work assigned. Do you know how to differentiate personal life and work? My IG is nt named “BF-GF bonding time” for your information. Since you have many IGs and you are complaining that I am the one not giving you time for ur relationship to grow, why not quit all the IG but one and spend the rest of the time together? Moreover, you started about the word commitment.
He also mentioned that I didn’t let him finish the reasoning part. Try to re-call the phone conversation again boy. I asked you where was ur commitment to the camp, it was not I told u to ur face that you were not committed. Got difference you know. What did I say after u said u got grading and all? I said okay and I asked for ur gf number. I couldn’t be bothered to ask you any further about your reasons for not coming. If you dun like making new frens, then I think your frenster account is being hacked into. Because it seems to me that there are always girls giving you comments such as “thanks for the add”. And how is it that you used to tell me that “hey, I am making fren with a new chick and all.” Tsk.. tsk..
5thly he mentioned that I am always aiming he & his gf for letters for not going for the camp. He din bother to clarify things with me. He claimed tat i onli requested letter from him and his gf. In actual fact he doesn't know tat all members who came to the meeting were informed to submit letter if they are not going for the camp. And for tat meeting, on the 3rd august 2007, the frens whom I suppose he asked didn’t turn up. Obviously they would not know tat they got to give letter. However, some of those who din turn up at the meeting later on msned me asking the meeting agenda. That was when they got to know about the letters thing. Maybe you should try asking them again to get your fact right. You can ask whoever came for meeting on the 3rd august 07 about the letter thing also. Need the attendance and contact number, let me know. I’ll ask the secretary to send it to you : )
Next you mentioned that I din understand about the family situation and all. Recall the phone conversation once again man. What did I say? I told u I got to settle things by the nxt morning and I all I wan to do is to msg her. Then you were like “blah blah”. I had to get my work done. I had no choice but to get her number which resulted in me saying I am a VP. I din understand her family situation? What did I tell you after u explained why I shouldn’t msg her at night? I told “okai, I still need the number. I need to update the nominal rolls to give HQ.” all you could do is to say I am stubborn. Are u sure I was stubborn? You think I was not patient enough? You din understand my work situation, did u? Double standard isn’t it? Well, think about it again.
He mentioned so what if I was the VP and whether I have 2 horns on my head. Hahah. Did I ever say that I have horns on my head? You assumed it yourself and there is nothing I can say about it. Well, so what if you know martial art? Have you won any competitions to back up your amount of talk? You bragg about ur martial art skills all the time too, how many tails do you have??(just like you asked me where are my horns.) All the time when you mentioned you “broke XXX number of heads, broke XXX number of legs, cracked XXX number of fingers and all”, do u have any prove? I mean it must have been obvious to you that we are not going to track down the people whom you mentioned got whack by you and ask “hey, did that guy come and pluck your tongue out or something.” So dun talk big until you have back up information. Atleast it should have gone into your brains that it was the effort which I put in all the years in RC which got me the position I am holding now. I think that itself speaks a lot. I am not a sports athletic to show medals or anything. So dun bother asking me to medals or trophies if that is what you have in mind.
He claimed tht no one in RP knows that Red Cross existed. It is an empty claim for your information. You din go about surveying everyone in RP to find out about this. Moreover he claimed that he made RC famous singlehandedly. You made RC famous by recruiting 3 people? You wan to compare how many I would have recruited in the 3 years? Also, how about those who joined before you? They didn’t know about the RC existence? Not to forget you mentioned this as well: “Without me, your cca will still be invisible as it is right now.”
And come to think of it, how on earth are we getting such a big number of people coming for our blood drive every 3 months once. It is obvious that the school RED CROSS chapter is the one organizing it. Ever occurred to you? You said no one is afraid of me. It seems as if you are saying that a good leader is someone whom people are afraid of. Let me get this right to u, this is not a military camp. My members are not supposed to be afraid of me. A good leader is some1 who does not instill fear in members. Since you yourself said that no one is afraid of me, thank u for indirectly saying that I have been a good leader. Still you can mention tat it won’t take too long to physically wreak every guys in RC. u know that u learnt martial arts, so u dare to challenge others who don’t. That’s as good as challenging a 3 year old to playing scrabble. Why not challenge someone who’s better at something then you are, for e.g., challenge aishwarya rai to a beauty pageant? That’s what I will call guts.
He claimed that every guy in school fears him because he can fight or that he got fighting skills. Then why is it that nobody is hiding/ cringing away in fear when he walks by? Or that how come people thinks of him as a joke in school? When I mention about you to people, the only reaction they give is “what is this object?”
Even my fren seemy told me that. How about wooing my close fren seemy and asking for her handphone number? When she refused to give her number, you can still ask another fren of mine to give seema’s number to you. Dun forget what happened that time in school library with me and seema. Once you know that she is single, you were like “why you din tell me? I would have dated her right and all.” Come on, my fren got standards. Do you think tat she would even date u? Btw, all this happen when you were attached. Does this ring a bell about commitment??
When my bf defended me (his gf), at the time when you called and scolded me, all my bf did was to defend me. And you said it is a betrayal? Is it a betrayal? My BF was stunned when you said that and so was I. everyone who don’t share your opinion becomes and is considered a betrayer? Everyone who protects & defends their love ones becomes a betrayer? That’s amazing.
Seriously man, GET A LIFE : )
Now that i have posted my entry about this person, I feel so happy. he has no reason to get angry as i didn’t mention his name. Supposedly he gets hurt, it’s his mistake and not mine, as it’s my blog and i can post whatever i want. These lines are exactly what he said to defend his words & actions. If he is a man of his words, he will accept this post. So there you go, you reap what you sow afterall.
Oh ya, about the part of being me mentioning in my earlier post that my friend doesn’t understand me and that you asked whether it rings a bell. Well, it does. Look into the mirror : ) Btw, I din say my fren was ungrateful.
P.S: This is a reply to the post on your blog. If you are a man of ur words, you would accept this post and not reply back :)